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Reflecting on Basquait - a comment

I read this article http://www.theblogofinnocence.com/2009/10/reflecting-on-basquiat.html on the Blog of Innocence and made a comment which for some reason I couldn't post even though I've posted before on the site - open ID error - even though its my live journal I use for it and obviouslly that is working :( Anyway I'm posting the comment here and trying to work out have to do links in this thing:

The thing is we all define ourselves by peoples expextations of us - it is part of being human - we are social animals and in the wild ostrasiscm ment a cold hungry death so we all seek acceptance.

Most people manage this in todays society by being slightly different people in different contexts - ie who they are talking to, how they have decided to dress that day etc...

But famous people stop having that buffer and they can fill judged all the time - the expectations to meet. They never get to feel completely on their own meaning that they never get to be themselves again - reset between events and groups of people. I think this would lead to a major distortion in who they appear to be and who they want to be.

I think that they would end up feeling that they belong no where but are owned by all which would be sickening to the heart.

The whole thing brings to mind a White Strips song about dreaming when your writing in your little room but then when you've made it having to struggle to remeber what it was like in the little room to get the right feelings to create again.

I find most of my depression comes from not being able to do what people expect of me so I imagine that must be a thousand fold if it is the general public that hold your soul in their hands.

Comments

5affy
Oct. 5th, 2009 02:07 pm (UTC)
Re: expectations
I think that my comment is very biased as I have been struggling with the problem of expectations myself which you both picked up on. It has taken me along time to try and be who I am and not be who I thought I was supposed to be - trying for an ideal that was demanded of me that I could not achieve.

I suffer tramendous guilt over not being good enough and things which is quiet frankly stupid but to try and become me I have to go against the doctrins I was brought up in with continual critasism which isn't very helpful.

I'm not entirely sure what I'm trying to say in this comment so I shall stop now!

I thought I'd just mucked up somehow with the Open ID but just couldn't work out how but maybe there's a bug in that case!

Thankyou both for your comments.

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